There is only one person I can ever really ultimately work on, and that is me. Forgetting that fact can be tragic. Or, at least very painful. The fastest way to convert someone from being a victim to being a warrior is through inspiration. People being inspired by your demonstartion of what happened when I worked on me. People being inspired spontaneously, of their own accord, from inside themselves.
Victims and pessimists hate to be fixed, hate to be corrected, and even hate to be taught things. Because their whole position is defensive. If my intention is to help someone become a happier person and have a bigger outlook, I want to make sure I don’t produce the opposite of that by judging them. I don’t want to push them deeper into their own pessimism by trying to fix them. And, so many people make that mistake. They criticize their teenage son for being moody and pessimistic and it only drives that poor boy deeper into himself. All he can hear is “There’s something wrong with you, I don’t approve of you, and I don’t understand you.” Now there is greater alienation. So all this fixing, correcting, improving and criticizing does not work with people.
The fastest, best way to connect with others is through something called inspiration. I want to ask: Have I become an inspirational figure in this person’s life? That would be a warriors inquiry, because no other way will work. If I’m not an inspirational figure in the lives of the pessimists around me they will not convert to optimism through me. They may still convert to optimism through something. It could be through some inspiring event or some inspiring person or some inspiring situation, or even an inspiring book can get it going. But, it won’t be through me.
Religions are started not just by what a person teaches but by who that person is being. The inner glow. The magnetic, inspiring example that person sets. The feeling people get when they are by his or her side.