The opposite of love is not hate. It’s fear. Victims live a life based on fear. (“What do I dread today? What do I fear will happen? Its not my fault.”) Owners live a life based on love. (“What would I love to make happen today?”).
You can stop being a victim and take ownership at any moment. It looks like a miracle when it happens (but a miracle I observe every day), but it is not all that difficult. It does not require new traits and characteristics on the part of the owner, because it is a choice. The owner-victim distinction lives at the level of choice. Make the choice and you can choose ownership. Refuse to choose and you’ll be a victim by default.