The biggest intellectual breakthrough for me was when I realized that happiness and growth were one and the same. They could not be separated. You can notice this for yourself: you are happy when you are growing. And no growth you’ve ever made has been effortless.

Watch a nature film of the butterfly struggling to push through a cocoon. You will see effort. You will be moved. Watch the movie Rocky. You will see the hidden connection between effort and joy. Pay attention to your reactions to certain scenes in movies. Pay attention to your goose bumps and your tears. They come in response to courage and effort. They don’t come in response to a scene in which someone is comfortable. Pay attention to why you are choked up. It is your spirit trying to tell you something. Are you listening?